My husband was active duty US Marine Corps and when we got married and had our son, Ben, I found using my teaching degree and software product management experience was impossible with his career dictating so much of our lives.
Deployment notifications came a week before he’d be gone for a month or two. The worst was when we had 30 days to prepare for a TEN MONTH deployment where we wouldn’t hear from him for weeks on end.
Not to mention having to move every few years.
Even when he was ‘home’ he was working 12 hours every night and sleeping all day.